The round-up
We worked through some specific feedback-related issues last week:
What do you do when you’re not getting any feedback yourself?
leaders rarely receive feedback themselves, as they are often the ones who dish it out. so you have to get out there and ask! specifically!
always scope your ask, so people know what to focus on:
do you want feedback on the content? or the delivery?
do you want feedback on your position? or how to position?
do you need their direction or confirmation of your direction?
How do you “neutralize” feedback when the norm is feedback = something negative?
positive reinforcement matters as much as critique
use the feedback formula of behavior + impact + intention to invite a neutral conversation:
behavior alone: “you were aggressive in that meeting”
behavior + impact: “when you cut Ashley off a few times, I noticed she shut down for the rest of the call”
behavior + impact + intent: “cutting Ashley off a few times unintentionally came off as dismissive, and she shut down for the rest of the call”
What are some ways to sprinkle in feedback on a regular basis, so you’re not rehashing something from months ago on a performance review?
where possible, create development “themes” within close working relationships, so you can tie a small observation (good or bad) to that theme on an ongoing basis
offer to “post-game” a meeting/deliverable over slack for some quick thoughts
use self-disclosure: proactively naming your own development areas makes it easier for others to give feedback on their own without you asking (and allows others to follow this practice)
The next two
The Go-Round: People Manager Edition
Friday, 10/9 at 12PM ET (register here)
Calling all people managers! Join hands and discuss what’s going on in your world:
handling various performance issues
managing tough situations (someone who used to be your peer, someone who didn’t get a promotion, someone burned out, etc etc)
working through a specific situation with people who also manage people
The Go-Round: Consulting Edition
Friday, 10/16 at 12PM ET (register here)
For consultants and the consulting-curious, an hour for shop talk on self-employment:
when/why/how you navigated the switch
compare notes on all the under-the-hood activities of running your own business
get advice and perspective on offerings, content, or outreach
Down the trail
Fun hangs on the way!
The Go-Round: Is This Normal? — Friday, 10/23
The Haunted Go-Round — Friday, 10/30
Thanks and see you around,
Ashley
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